to you, blogger world,
what my husband and family are already aware of.
I have been having an affair for over 5 years.
It is serious.
I am sad to admit, however,
that this relationship is going through a major change.
And me and my marriage to my actual husband are going to have to adjust.
What I mean is this:
My friend Amanda took a full time job.
We talk every day,
When my kids do something new,
when there's news at work,
with my marriage,
or anything worth noting really...
I know 3 people I have to tell:
Why I say that my marriage will have to adjust,
is because Amanda sometimes acts a a buffer.
It works like this::
We are pissed at our husbands...
we vent to each other,
and by the time they get home
we are over it.
(or we have gotten some good
Or (like yesterday) we think our babies have morphed into evil aliens...
we confess our day
and the other one reminds us how many times we have been around each other's well behaved kids...
that it is a stage.
that we are good mom's.
that all kid's throw fits, act out, disobey, have bad days...
and that this too shall pass.
You see, my husband is not the greatest hand-holder...
but he will have to learn
if he is going to fill Amanda's shoes.
Dr Phil calls this kind of friendship an affair.
And we are totally cool with that.
I talk to other friends too.
One even came over yesterday to play
and I have a date set for tomorrow with another.
But my affair with Amanda is more of an addiction
and no-phone-call-days-- or 10 minute spurts on others, is going to be a life adjustment.
I am looking into rehab.
(or a GNO, which sounds way more fun!)
I am happy for Amanda,
and her new adventure.
One thing I know for sure,
is she made the right decision for her family, and her work gained an awesome, caring, dedicated, kick-ass nurse.
And the 2nd thing I know (or maybe this actually counts as the 3rd thing),
I miss her.